10 Powerful Ways to Overcome Self-Doubt

Self-doubt can be troubling and somewhat a persuasive voice that holds you back. It holds you back from seizing your opportunities. It makes getting started or finishing things harder than they need to be.
Sure, it can sometimes be useful as it helps you to soberly see your current limitations or simply recognise a half-baked or bad idea. But mostly, it holds you back in life.
So how can you get around that, how can you overcome those times of self-doubt so that you can move forward once again?
In this post, I’ll be exploring some tips and habits that have helped me to decrease that destructive inner voice.

1. Say stop

First, when your inner doubts bubble up, be quick. Don’t let them spin out of control or grow from a whisper to a scream of discouraging words. Instead, talk back to that doubtful part of yourself.
In your mind, say or shout something like: No, no, no, we are not going down that road again. By doing so you can disrupt the thought pattern and stop that inner self-doubter from taking over.

2. Look to the past and awash yourself in the memories

Be real with yourself and ask yourself:
How many times when I doubted myself or feared something would happen did that negative thing come into reality after I still took action?
The answer for me — and probably for you too — is not very often at all.
Self-doubts are most often just monsters in your head that your mind may use to keep you from making changes and to keep you within the comfort zone.
If you look to the past and see how well things have gone many times despite those self-doubts then it becomes easier to let go of them or to ignore them and to focus on the more likely positive outcome and to take action.

3. Talk to someone about it

When you keep your thoughts on the inside they can become distorted, exaggerated and not very much in line with reality or reasonable expectations. This is very much true when it comes to self-doubting thoughts.
So let them out into the light. Talk to someone close to you about your self-doubts. Just letting them out and saying them out loud can often help you to hear how exaggerated these thoughts have become. And by talk about those doubts with someone that is supportive you can get a change in perspective.

4. Don’t get stuck in the comparison trap

If you compare yourself to other people all too often, to their successes and especially to their highlight reels that they share on social media then self-doubt can quickly creep up.
A better way to go about things is to compare yourself to yourself. To see how far you’ve come. To see what you’ve overcome. And to see how you’ve kept going, succeeded and grown as a human being.

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5. Start keeping a journal

Keeping a journal can be a helpful habit for many reasons. When it comes to self-doubt it can help you to:

  • Keep a realistic record of your life as this helps you to remember the positive things, the successes you have had and how you have overcome obstacles if you are prone to remembering things with a negative slant.
  • Gain clarity more easily. It is often easier to alleviate fears and doubts and to gain clarity if you have an issue laid out on paper or in a computer document rather than if you try to go through it all in your mind. By making lists of pros and cons, going through your thoughts and emotions and similar events from the past and by writing down different perspectives on the issue it becomes easier to find solutions and to see your challenge in a clearer and more level-headed way.

6. Remember: people don’t care that much about what you do or say

When you worry about what others may think or say if you do something then the self-doubt can quickly become stronger and you get stuck in inaction and in fear.
When that happens remind yourself that the truth is that people don’t really care that much about what you do or not do. They have their hands full with thinking about themselves, their kids and pets, jobs and upcoming sports matches and with worrying about what people may think of them.

7. What someone said or did might not be about you (or about what you think it is)

When someone criticises you then it’s easy to start doubting yourself. When someone rejects you and you don’t get the job after an interview you think went pretty well then it’s not so strange to get down on yourself.
But what if what he or she said or did really isn’t about you at all?
Perhaps your co-worker that verbally lashed out at you is having a bad day, month or time outside of work. And you might not have gotten that job because the managers mum got sick and they had to focus on that and were then unable to employ as there was nobody to train new starters.
You don’t know everything that is going on in another person’s life. And the world doesn’t revolve around you so be cautious not to misinterpret and build blame and doubt without any reason.

8. See a setback as temporary

When you have a setback then you might start to see things through a negative and dark lens. You might see this current setback as something that will simply be your new normal.
This way of looking at things can trap you in thinking that there’s no point in continuing to take action.
So instead:

  • Remember: You are not a failure just because you failed. Setbacks happen to everyone who take chances. It is simply a part of living life fully. Sometimes things go well and sometimes they don’t. So don’t make a failure into this huge thing or into your identity.
  • Ask yourself: what is one thing I can learn from this setback? Use the mistake or failure to your advantage and to move forward once again in a smarter way.

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9. Celebrate that small step and win

When you’ve taken one small step forward — for example, set up your own website or gone for the first 5 minute run in months or years — and you’re done with it then you have a win. It may be a small one but it’s still a win. So celebrate it.
Have a tasty snack or your favourite food for dinner, spend some time on your favourite hobby or by yourself something you’ve wanted for a long time. This will renew and recharge your motivation and make taking action feel more exciting and fun. And that will push self-doubts aside so that you can keep moving and get more small and bigger wins.

10. Remember: You can course-correct along the way

Trying to plan every move you will make on a journey towards a goal or dream can become draining and lead to quite a bit of self-doubt. And it usually won’t work that well anyway since the best laid plans often start to fall apart a bit or need some change when they are confronted with reality. Acceptance of this is key.
So do a bit of rough planning and then start your journey, it’s all trial and error. Remember that you can always course-correct along the way towards what you want. Empowered by the new knowledge, experience and feedback you will get as you keep going on that path.
To round this all up, I definitely feel that self-doubt is something that many of us do naturally and somewhat don’t realise we do. I hope that these 10 tips help you all on the road to overcoming self-doubt.
Please feel free to drop any questions or queries below.
Thank you for reading x

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  1. I like the idea of saying stop immediately when the doubtful thoughts come through because it’s like you’re claiming control again. You’re so right about setbacks being temporary because we are not our circumstances, there are better things to come in our life and we shouldn’t nestle in those negative moments. Nice tips!👌🏾

    Natonya | https://justnatonya.wordpress.com

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  2. Very well written! I agree. I’ve also noticed that many times when I tell myself I can’t do things it is my mind trying to manipulate me because it is hard and mentally my brain seems to try to take the easy way out. But when I stop ad think about it, it is the tasks that were difficult that I completed that I am the most proud of. Thanks!

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  3. Such a fab post! And super inspiring. Everything you’ve said is so so true! Really makes you think. I always find myself falling into these traps 😭 should print this out and stick it to my mirror 😂 Thanks for sharing ❤️ Xx

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    1. Thank you so much darlin 🙌 these traps are sooo easy to fall into and before you can even think you’re deeper than ever. Do print it out darlin if it’s going to help. Thank you for reading and I’m so happy you’ve enjoyed 💕

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  4. The comparison trap can definitely take you down a spiral of self-doubt. I’ve learned not to let others success become a hindrance for me, but it is something that I have to do intentionally every single day. The tips that you listed are very simple to follow and helpful. Thank you Raheela

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  5. Great list! I find myself falling victim to many of these traps and your article presents very practical methods to combat thoughts of self doubt. I especially like the point that setbacks are temporary and they don’t define you. Really fantastic job 🙂

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