The Power of the Mind

So today’s post is all about ‘The Power of the Mind’. I’m going to be discussing how powerful the mind is when wanting to achieve your goals and better your successes. I hope you lovelies enjoy!

Whatever you desire, you can achieve it using MIND POWER.

Basically guys, all physical reality is made up of vibrations of energy, even your thoughts are vibrations of energy. Your thoughts have an incredible influence on your life and how you live it. Sounds pretty basic right?

Your thoughts affect what happens to you. Most of us go through life taking little notice of our thought processes: how the mind thinks, what it fears, what it says to itself and what it pushes to one side. We usually go about our lives with minimal attention to what we think, usually neglecting one of the most important and powerful forces in our life: our thoughts.

What you focus on, you attract…

Mind power is directing your thoughts towards a desired outcome. Focus on success and you attract success.Focus of failure and fear and you attract failure. Mind power is all about understanding these principles and making our thoughts work for us. If you use your thoughts consciously you will awaken a whole new life of power and opportunity.

In order to make changes in our lives, we need to change the way we use our mind. We cannot use both positive and negative thoughts at the same time as one always overpowers the other.

To change the external, you must change the internal.

A lot of people usually forget this step and try to change the external conditions by working directly on the condition but most of the time this proves to be a temporary fix, unless it is accompanied by a change of thoughts and beliefs.

If you train your conscious mind to think thoughts of success, happiness and prosperity this will help you learn to ween out negativity such as fear and worry. Trying to keep the mind busy with the expectation of the best will help better your lifestyle.

So what about the subconscious mind?

Your subconscious mind is your partner in success so get it working for you!

The subconscious mind is a second, almost hidden mind that exists within you. It’s main goal is to attract circumstances and situations that match the images you have within. Thinking of it visually, it’s a little bit like fertile soil which will grow anything you plant within it. Your thoughts and beliefs are seeds that are being constantly sown.

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It’s your responsibility to be aware of how this process works and carefully selecting what reaches your subconscious. For a lot of us, this process hasn’t been explained and therefore results in allowing all thoughts, good and bad, to reach the subconscious.

Your subconscious accepts what is impressed upon it with feeling and repetition, whether these thoughts are positive or negative. It does not evaluate things like your conscious mind does. This is why it is so important to be aware of what you are thinking.

Once you are able to input positivity and images of what you want into your subconscious, ‘chance-events’ will start happening to you. To a lot of people, this is what is known as a coincidence or good luck. Instead, it is literally the forces that YOU have set in motion with your thoughts.

Get on top of life with creative visualisations!

So how can we use this reality in our lives? By focusing daily on what you desire. The mind power system consists of easily learned techniques that will help you focus and direct your thoughts. One that is really important to myself is visualisation.

Visualisation is all about creating a mental image of what you actually want. When you repeat these images over and over, and see success in whatever goal you may have then the mind uses its power so you’re more likely to achieve these goals.

The key to visualising is to always visualise that you already have what you desire. This is a mental trick. Rather than hoping you will achieve it, or building confidence that one day it will happen, live and feel it as if it is happening to you now.

Focus and direct your thoughts and amazing things will happen.

Another powerful way of taking control over the subconscious mind is to use affirmations. By doing this, you affirm to yourself whatever it is that you desire. For example, if you have an important interview coming up, you could affirm to yourself that you will have “a great interview”. So instead of the mind seeing success, it hears success and reacts to influence your thoughts.

When I make affirmations I always make sure that they are positive and that I don’t doubt myself. It is always important to keep it short and simple so that you can repeat it without even thinking. Also, I feel that you don’t have to force yourself to believe it. Just say it and it will naturally have an effect on you.

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Eliminate negative thinking

Worry, fear, and negative thinking allow the mind to focus on things you don’t want. Train your mind to think about what you want in life, and avoid thinking about what you don’t want. Negative thinking drains your energy and is counterproductive; that is why fear is so destructive and why despair and hopelessness must be avoided. In a way, this is the key to success.

So how do we eliminate this negative thinking?  The first step is to recognise the importance of eliminating negative thoughts, and the second step is to be aware when negatives are happening to us. An important thing to remember is that you can’t avoid negative thinking entirely. Sometimes negative thoughts just pop into our mind but when this happens it helps to be aware, so that we immediately recognise when we are thinking negatively. There are many ways of minimising the effects of negative thoughts:

  1. Changing the negative thought into a positive one e.g. if you are worried about what could go wrong in a situation, think about what could go right.
  2. Reminding yourself that a negative thought is just a negative thought and it has no power unless you give it power.

The key to all of this is consistency with whatever you practise and self belief that you can do it. I think it’s important to understand that the mind controls an awful lot of us and we can work with it to get a positive outcome.

I really hope you guys enjoyed this post. Let me know your thoughts below.

Mollie x

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February Goals

So after what feels like centuries later we have finallyyyyy reached February! And that means it’s time for some GOAL SETTING.

This month for me is going to be a month revolving around productivity and self development. To achieve this, I have decided to have 4 key goals to help me get to a better place emotionally, physically and mentally. They are as follows:

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A lot of it for me can change day to day so with this I am trying to get into a healthy routine with my self development and interaction with others. I feel this will motivate me to get things done even on the hardest days. As you guys can see, a lot of the daily tasks are social media related so yes that means that you guys are going to be seeing more of me. 

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*Just how cute is this?*

For example, I want to be supporting you guys just as much as you lovelies support me. I want to be posting as many Instagram stories as possible. Retweeting tweets, reading and liking blogs #INTERACTION.

I feel that this will keep me busy and also help with my mental health. Keeping busy and doing what I love always helps keep the negative thoughts to one side so we could say that this is going to be incredibly positive for my progression.

Use my new weekly planner

Again, this month is all about being organised and using my time efficiently to get things done. Planning forms stability right? And I guess that’s what I’m missing right now. I don’t know whether I’m coming or going half the time which is also a huge hindrance on my health. With this in mind, I was doing a little cheeky B&M shopping trip when I came across this little beauty …

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*£3.99… BARGAIN!*

Honestly, I didn’t even think I just picked it up and went home and put it on the wall. I didn’t even consult my partner. He came home and just giggled and congratulated me on getting a job interview as you can see from the picture. Which leads me to my next goal…

Find a job 

This is a really big thing for me. From being in a job I absolutely adored to then going through homelessness and losing my job and literally everything. Now is the time to pick myself back up and get my ass back in the working world. After all, the bills have got to be paid and that stress is far too heavy at the moment and time is running out to be perfectly honest.

I want to tell myself that my health couldn’t be better but as I’m writing this with a box of tissues next to me and a banging headache that doesn’t really cut it. Being honest with you guys, I’m struggling. And it’s okay to say that I’m struggling. For a few months, I have been under investigation due to me having seizure like fits which really do have no explanation. I totally lose consciousness and am totally unresponsive. It’s quite scary really, nobody knows what’s wrong with me. So as you guys can probably imagine, going back into work is very daunting but something I’m going to overcome.

#HUSTLEBABY

Eat more consistently 

Something I’ve been struggling with lately is eating, like at all. I can hand on heart say that this isn’t because I’m suffering with any form of eating disorder. I feel it’s truly because I just don’t even think to eat, it doesn’t cross my mind. I don’t feel hungry so I don’t eat. It’s so unusual for me because before this I battled really hard to form a good relationship with food and understand that food is needed to keep healthy and it’s my fuel to do the things I need to do. But these past few months I’ve found it really hard to incorporate eating into my daily routine.

Moving forward, I’m wanting to grow that relationship with food even more so that I’m eating not just healthily but consistently. By this I mean like having 3 meals a day even if they’re small. What I won’t be doing anymore is not eating all day and then sitting down at 10pm and snacking on crisps and little things.

Healthy body = Healthy Mind

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*So this is what I ate for my evening meal last night and I must admit… I actually really enjoyed it* 

That now brings me to the end of my February goals. I hope you all enjoyed reading and will check back at the end of the month when I reflect on how I’ve done. If any of you guys have any advice then feel free to leave comments below.

Until next time lovelies,

Mollie x

Embracing Me

For so long now I’ve been battling with my inner voice. The one that tells me I’m not good enough, the one that tells me I’m unlovable, that I’m too fat, too ugly and I’m not worth life. I feel like every week it’s something new that my inner saboteur is telling me, trying to push me to the limit till I break, but so far I have done a pretty good job of managing it, that was until this time last year I let it all get to me.

 

I had one of my biggest breakdowns yet, my mental health was shattered and I just didn’t want to live anymore. I would of happily let death take me away. Everything got on top of me, everything came crashing down and I didn’t see a reason to live because obviously the voice in my head was right…right? I didn’t tell anyone about it, keeping it to myself was something that just came naturally. I wanted to appear strong, but that didn’t help at all and I don’t know why I haven’t learnt from this mistake as it’s one I have made on many occasions. I wasn’t myself for a while. I let my job go to waste, and I really did lose everything. My home, my job, the small handful of friends that I did have … all gone. I pushed everyone away which I didn’t even realise. It was easier to be on my own because I didn’t have to waste energy pretending everything was okay. I always thought I was pretty good at faking a smile as I used to do it daily without thinking about it but it just got harder and harder.

 

There came a point last year where it was just me, four walls, one room and my own thoughts. Sat in the window of my basic YMCA room, staring at the outside world wondering whether anybody else was feeling the way I was feeling. I really did hit the lowest of the low and did some things that were totally out of character. Luckily though, I fought off my inner demons, I didn’t let them win and take my life because I am worth so much more, SOOO MUCH MORE.

 

After many months, giving myself a pep talk, thinking about all the things I have to be thankful for and looking into my partners eyes I eventually saw the other side. I’m not letting depression win again, this isn’t going to break me to the point of no return so I’ve picked myself up and dusted myself off. No more. I am worth life. I am enough. I am amazing.

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I always worry about how I look, I always worry if my body is disgusting and I don’t know why. Why am I so mean to myself? My body has done amazing things. It carries my wherever I need to go, it’s my permanent house and if I can’t treat it right and show it some love then do I really deserve it? I have gotten to the point where I no longer want to be ashamed, to cover up in baggy clothing to hide myself. I’m going to start doing the things I love again. These stripes on my body symbolise the progress I’ve made both in my depression and anxiety and an eating disorder. They symbolise my journey. I shouldn’t be worrying about what other people think of my body, my body is none of their business and if I want to rock a bikini then I’m sure as hell going to rock a bikini. I have held myself back from so much because I have been worried about my shape or size or even how I look. It’s silly when I think about it because who really cares? Who cares what size I am? Does anyone actually care whether I’m a size 4 or a size 20? No, they care about whether I am a good person or not. Who doesn’t want to be friends with someone because of their size on a clothing label? Embracing myself and my body is very important to me, no more hiding who I am because of what others may think.

It’s not something that is going to happen overnight but I am getting there, I am learning to trust in myself, to trust in my ideas and own it. I need to get on board with myself and be my own biggest fan rather than my worst enemy. That’s where it starts, that’s where greatness happens and if I want to succeed in life I better get trusting in my own decisions and loving myself rather than second guessing everything and working against myself.

 

There is so much I want to embrace about myself, I have gotten to the point where it’s now or never because I really don’t want to go through life hating on myself. I want to show the world that self love is important, that knowing your worth and knowing you’re amazing is okay. It’s ok to own it, be your biggest fan, love yourself and show it to the world. I wouldn’t want anybody to feel like they’re not good enough and hopefully me showing that you can battle through it and own your life and live it the way you want to will have a detrimental effect on you guys.

 

I am hoping to every month put up a post talking about the steps I have been taking to embrace myself. This is an introduction of sorts to a monthly series I will have. I’ll talk about the tips and tricks I have been applying to my life plus an update to how it’s all going. I want the world to embrace this attitude because each and every one of you ARE amazing and you should be sharing your talents with the world, believe in yourself and shine. It’s taking me this long to finally get to grips with it.

 

“Just one of those nights”

***Trigger Warning***

You just know when it’s one of those nights.
The rough kind.

But you still lay in the bed, changing positions every few seconds, flipping the pillow to the cooler side every second and kicking your blanket away. You switch the lights on, cover yourself up with the blanket, sit up in the bed with the blanket over your head. You switch the lights off, walk across your room, randomly stopping and sitting on the floor.

While you are doing all this, you are still trying to convince yourself that it is not one of those nights.

For the thousandth time, you go back to your bed and try to sleep. You beg your brain to stop thinking, but you know better than that. You get into your head, even deeper. You begin contemplating everything, every single thing.

You sit up straight, again and start the breathing exercises, even though you know it’s pointless.

You walk through your room, drink a glass of water and splatter your face with the cold water. All this while your brain is counting everything that is wrong with your life.

You think maybe talking to someone will help, but it’s 2:45 in the morning, a time when most of the people are asleep. You have no hope.

At this point, you are so deep into it that you can’t help but accept it and let it pass. It engulfs you, reaches your throat and you feel even sicker. There are a billion thoughts floating in your mind and not even a single one of them has a hint of happiness to it.

You hate the helplessness, you hate how it’s making you feel. You want to stick fingers down your throat just to vomit out all the negative thoughts, you wish you were feeling better.

The emptiness literally drowns you in negativity and hopelessness. You shut the world out. You feel nobody can help you, not even the closest of people.

It’s scary I know. But trust me, you aren’t alone…

Body Positivity

How do YOU see your body? Is it a comfortable place to be or is it a shell of who you really are? Deep. I know. But this is something I think of often, how do I see my body.

For years, I spent almost all of my time thinking about my body. What I’m feeding it, what I can do to make it better – more lean, stronger, BETTER. I had an obsession with changing everything about my body. I truly hated the way it was.

This is not a before and after story. I’m not going to tell you that I had a magical metanoia and managed to turn into a lean, fit, fighting machine or a beautiful, delicate Audrey Hepburn type. Nope. Not even close.Related image

So what is body positivity? For me, it is about learning to accept and appreciate all body parts and others too. It is about loving what you look like and what your body can actually do. This really does sound like the most difficult thing ever. After all, we have been spending years of our lives yearning for that ‘bikini body’, that perfect body that will someday be ours whether we’re 16, 18, 25, 30…and so on. The dream really does never die. But really, when was the last time you actually looked at your body with true acceptance? Not just…it’s fine apart from my legs, arms, stomach ect. But true, unswerving acceptance. I know I personally have never done this. But I have decided to learn.

So what do the critics say?

  • But how can you be positive about your body when you are fat/obese?
  • You can’t be healthy and fat!
  • But what about the diets that aren’t actually diets – they are lifestyle changes?

Firstly, the body positive movement is about being happy with yourself and loving yourself even if you are fat, thin, old, young whatever. At any stage simply accepting yourself.

Secondly, I believe that body positivity does not promote or encourage obesity or fatness but simply encourages people to have self-worth no matter what size you are. What about flipping the coin to being unhealthy and thin? That means that I could work out and eat healthy foods but be technically overweight. BMI LIES!

And seriously, diets that claim to be just ‘lifestyle changes’ are still …diets. If you are eating by a certain plan to lose weight then YES you are dieting. I have tried every diet under the sun, have been drawn in to ‘lifestyle changes’ that claim to fix your relationship with food but every time I have gained the weight back because I was unable to keep up the ‘lifestyle’. I blamed that on myself for years… thought I was simply weak. But in reality, every company that claims to fix your weight is actually to blame, because they would never make money without you needing to KEEP fixing your weight.

In conclusion, this may be one of my most opinionated blog posts to date, but it is simply what I’ve been learning over the last year. The body positive movement has worked as a motivator for me to recover and to learn how to accept myself. It’s still taking time, but I am slowly gaining confidence and am more comfortable in my skin than I ever used to be. I’m not claiming to be perfect but that’s exactly the point, I am not perfect. I am just me.

So yeah, thanks to family and friends for helping me think outside the box. Body positivity is a functional lifestyle and I guess I am living proof.

Much love x

 

Comparing Myself to Others – Top Tips for Personal Development

How often do you compare yourself to others – your friends, family, or people you see on the TV or social media?

What impact does this have on your mental health and wellbeing?

I know personally, this is one of the worst things I can do for myself. When I compare myself to others I feel hugely inadequate. It doesn’t matter who they are or what they do, when I compare myself to another person, I always come out the loser in the imaginary competition I have created.

So what impact does this have on my mental health?

The comparisons I make are always unfair. I compare myself to the top athletes, the richest, the most beautiful, the smartest people, the people I know I will never be like. On many occasions, I have been known to ruin what was a perfectly nice experience by comparing myself to others no matter where I was. It seems to leave a distorted view of the way I should be, how I should look, and how I should act.

Over the past week I have decided to try and STOP comparing myself to others, and to focus a little bit more on myself.

 

A few things that I have been mindful of other the past are as follows;

  1. Accepting yourself and where you’re at

I have decided that I am going to try and be kinder to myself. If I find myself saying, “Why can’t I do better? Why am I not like her?”ect. I am going to take a breathe and tell myself, “because I am not there yet.” I am my own person and I am taking on my own battles. My circumstances are different to other people’s. So I am going to accept that this is where I am right now, and I can put a plan into place to work towards improving certain areas of my life.

 

2. Be grateful for what you have

This for me is so important. I need to take time to reflect what I do have in my life. I feel I sometimes take certain things for granted in my everyday life which I am beginning to reassess.

 

3. Take a break from social media

If I find myself beginning to feel like crap because I don’t have 70 amazing outfits, I’m not travelling all over the world and my hair does NOT look like that, I know it’s time to take a step back from social media. Instagram and similar apps are basically a tool for comparison. They let people post the best snapshots of their life and when you compare yourself to that, you are again being totally unfair to yourself.

 

4. Know that this is not the end

Just because you may not have everything you want in life right now, doesn’t mean it will never happen. It is all temporary and this moment, is just a moment. It is a chapter, not a whole book. When you compare someone’s happy ending to your own life as it is now, it is not a fair comparison.

 

5. Stop using ‘should’

I have already been noticing how much I use the word ‘should’ in daily life. I should have done this, I should be better at this. I should go out, I should stay in blah blah blah. This just keeps me focused on my inadequacies and not what I have going for me. I will make a conscious effort to think about what I actually want.

 

6. Be your own inspiration

I’ve decided that if I really must compare, I will compare myself to myself! I believe it is about time I think about how far I’ve come, and all the little things I have achieved along the way. I’m going to let it sink in that I have achieved things in my life and I should actually be proud of myself.

 

I hope I am able to follow my own advice here, and continue to work on my own personal development.

Please feel free to leave your comments x

Dark Days

‘It could be worse’. That’s what they all say as if it’s supposed to make you feel good that other people are hurting in the world. Okay, yes others may have it worse than you but since when was it a competition? Does this make your suffering less of a problem? Does this minimise the dark cloud that encapsulates you? Does this actually lighten the load on your shoulders?

In many cases, depression is usually described using adjectives such as ‘dark’ or ‘black’. The thing is, when you’re depressed it seems that nothing can describe the way you feel. Nobody really understands the enormous effort it takes to get through daily tasks, to eat and to even speak.

I know. Because I’ve been there.

A lot of people would actually describe me as positive and bubbly, and I am. Most of the time. Behind closed doors, I have spent weeks in my room, hiding from the world and unable to raise my head above the tide of darkness that ebbs and flows around my mind.

I feel that my voice is quite low and sometimes barely heard when I try to speak. By the time I muster the courage to get out of bed, I’m exhausted because it takes so much energy even to do the small things. I can’t go to the gym. I can’t go to work. I can’t see the people who care about me because I am so tired, so low, and truthfully emotionally wrecked.

‘You’re not good enough.’ It’s a constant throbbing in my head that just repeats itself. It passes through my mind that there’s no purpose for me here. That nobody needs me.

This is depression. This is real. Not when you break a nail or your favourite band are breaking up. Depression is not so much a feeling as a temporary state of being. It’s not to be romanticised in black and white pictures. It is real and for any of you who have been in that state and have made it through – well done. And for any of you that have been there and are seeking help – congratulations, you’ve taken the first step. It’s not easy to drag yourself out of it. For any of you who think you are experiencing this…acknowledge it and don’t push it under the carpet. It is tough, but you’re tougher and you’ll find a way. Embrace that you’re not alone and there are people out there who are willing to help you. We are out there. Just talk.

As Churchill said, “This is not the end. This is the end of the beginning.”